Friends Are Good To Have

On Friday, I had two emails from friends that have since moved on in their lives, and live in totally different places. One moved to Colorado, and another moved to a country in Europe. I liked both of them when they were around, but I never would have realized the impact they had on me this past Friday.

We'll start with the first one. He is a native of Baltimore, and I met him in 1999, when I was dating my old boyfriend. I would hang out with him and all the rest of my friends every Friday and Saturday night, and we would usually end up hanging out at one bar or another, and then usually going back to someone's house afterwards. No one had any deep conversations or anything like that, but it was just a fun group of people to hang out with. Since my boyfriend at the time was a car guy (body and fender worker), if anyone needed work done on their cars, they would come over to my house and use my garage and the old boyfriend's tools. Again, nothing really came out of these hang out periods. We'd just hang out. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less, and eventually the car would get fixed and the guy(s) would go home. I forget why, but the guy I'm talking about ended up giving me a cart for tools and other random things. It's a lightweight cart, so if you're working in the garage, you can put everything you need on the cart and wheel it around near you. It's pretty handy. The funny thing is that it has his initials on it. Kind of like that 'property of' tag. We kind of lost touch and then I found out he had a girlfriend, and was moving away to go to school and start his life with this girl. I think maybe she's in school or something out there too, but I don't know. So I got this email from him and he was just so nice. He said that he always thought that I was a really good friend, and he really valued all the time we spent together and stuff like that. He even said he missed me (awww..). I have always thought this guy was nice, but it really touched me when I read his email. Who knew? That's one good friend to have, and I hope that when I'm out in Sturgis, we can make a special trip to Colorado to see him.

Friend number two, I just met recently. Well, April 2003. I was single at the time and was just hanging out at a friend's house. This friend appeared, and we pretty much clicked instantly. We hung out and rode our motorcycles all over the place, and just had a really good time together. Things were kind of weird at first because I never knew if he liked me, if I wanted to admit that I liked him, but I definitely just enjoyed the time we had together and didn't make a big deal out of it. That's something that comes really easy to me (ignoring feelings. hee hee). So, needless to say he moved away to another country. We still keep in touch probably once a week or once every two weeks, but Friday his email just really hit close to home. He was saying that he wished I didn't live so far when he was in the states, and you never know what would've happened, etc.. Just stuff like that. True, I don't know if anything would have happened romantically, but I just miss being friends. He also said something about there's no sense coming to the states and going to TX if I'm not going to be there! hee hee. That made me laugh because he's right. I wouldn't go back to the rally that I went to last summer (in TX) unless something REALLY good was going to be there, so I totally don't blame him. HA! Then, he was telling me about all these rides he's planning on going on this summer in his country and neighboring countries, and I just wish I could be there to go with him. I think that maybe he never had a friend like me before, and it makes me a little sad that we are so far apart. I have had friends like him before, but it usually takes me a while to get to the totally comfortable stage, where with him, it was just so easy from day one. I don't know what I'm trying to say. It's just nice sometimes to get a call or an email from someone that you haven't heard from in a while just to say hi and I miss you.